Being Comfortable with Discomfort| What My Feminine Energy Journey is Revealing to Me

Smiling in the moment, the author of the blog Melissa Renee shares a joyful and candid selfie.

Hey Sis, 

The past few weeks I felt like I was regressing. I could see my old patterns starting to creep their way back in like your ex when he text’s you “Hey bighead”. And I don’t want to pigeon hold myself to these old patterns. It’s like soon as you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel, you’re back to seeing only darkness and those tunneled walls. It’s as if it happens all of sudden. One minute you’re making significant moves and then the next minute you turn around and you’re right back at point A.

All of these revelations allowed me to embrace the unknown and to trust the process. The process of the Universe,

Has that ever happened to you, sis? Have you ever been making great strides on developing and growing through your pain or setbacks and you find yourself circling back? I had my breakthrough a few months ago, which is some of the root of my anxiety. I discovered that I didn’t know how to sit with my discomfort, my feelings of worry and anxiety. I believed that if I could control the outcome or “fix” whatever the problem was that had me with the anxiety then I no longer had to sit with the feeling. Until I realized that isn’t true. Sometimes there are situations and circumstances that are just out of my hands. For instance people, and I wrote to you some time back about me trying to fix my son’s life so that I could feel more at ease. This is when I discovered that I had a controlling issue.

All of these revelations allowed me to embrace the unknown and to trust the process. The process of the Universe, the process of people having their own journey, and the process of tapping into my feminine energy. However I got lost along the way and I’m not sure how. I’m not sure how I’m back to feeling unnerving about feeling the discomfort— anxiety. I can’t pinpoint it right now but I won’t dwell on it. In time what triggered me to regress shall be revealed until then I started focusing on how to realign myself; or least not regress any further. 

It was revealed to me that a lot of me feeling overstimulated and overwhelmed has to do with this illusion of time. “I don’t have enough time to do this or that”

I decided to use the tools that I learned during my time as I was being coached by Tayler. One practice she taught me was about resetting our nervous system. When I first started coaching she gave me a seven day challenge to limit my usage on social media and phone for that matter. She asked me to then document how I felt everyday. She wanted me to document the challenges I faced and how it felt, sensational wise. So while the theme of Attract Your Tribe Community this month was grounding, guiltless rest, and divine clarity; I thought what better time then to reset my nervous system. As I’m writing this, it’s my last day, but because I’ve felt a shift I may try to keep it up for another seven days.

It was revealed to me that a lot of me feeling overstimulated and overwhelmed has to do with this illusion of time. “I don’t have enough time to do this or that”. Even when it comes to my son, I feel like “What if he doesn’t have enough time to get his shit together? What’s going to happen then?” I believe this is what fuels my need to fix and control. It’s the impatience in me—wanting to see the results or the change but not allowing myself to flow through the process. There’s no time frame on healing. You never sit in the position to be “healed” because we’re forever evolving. We’re always presently healing. However, I would have been stuck limiting myself to the latter belief if I didn’t take this time to reset.

Being on social media just amplifies my illusion, control, and overwhelmingness. It doesn’t filter in teaching patience, intentions, and sitting with discomfort. It magnifies rage, contempt, and instant gratification. And I can’t put the blame totally on them. I certainly believe you can be on social media and be intentional, patient, and present but it’s on the person. That’s where connecting with my feminine energy comes into play. When I’m consistently tapping in and balancing I know where and when to lean in when it comes to social media and I know when to detach. These seven days have shown me when my nervous system is unsettled how it plays on every aspect of my life. It plays on how I can’t be disciplined with what I eat because if I can sit with the discomfort of boredom or restlessness, then I tend to want to eat something sweet to feel the void that I’m feeling. That then affects my health and my progress when it comes to my weight loss journey. Now I’m stressed going double time with working out, adding more stress on my body because I’m not seeing the results. 

I’ve learned a lot this past week. I’ve learned that we all have to regroup sometimes. It doesn’t mean I failed. It just means that I’m still putting all the pieces together to view the entirety of the picture. It was something I missed from the last time I did a nervous system reset and I did. I missed what unsettles my nervous system when I’m on social media that has me to reset it in the first place. And this will make it much easier to identify when it’s time to detach or realign when it comes to my usage of social media. I’ve learned that social media may help me distract myself from feeling the feelings I don’t like to feel. But I need to embody it and feel it.

I’m embracing how to embody the feelings of discomfort. Like how to be restless, scared, neutral, and seen. This is allowing me to step into who I am authentically

I’m embracing how to embody the feelings of discomfort. Like how to be restless, scared, neutral, and seen. This is allowing me to step into who I am authentically. So let this be a reminder that we can’t grow if we don’t know what we’re growing from or if we don’t have anything to grow from. The idea is not to be perfect but authentic. That’s what tapping into our feminine energy is teaching us —---- Being comfortable with the discomforts that come with being yourself. And showing yourself love, compassion, and kindness in doing so.

How do you deal with feelings of discomfort?

After reading this open letter are you ready to learn the importance and how to embody your discomfort so you can live fully in your authenticity? Book a Free 1:1 20 minute Clarity Call for if you just want to start off gradually then join my community Attract Your Tribe. I'm here to support you in the best way, sis.

Peace + Blessings,

Melissa Renee